Dear Natasha,
So, recently I’ve decided to stop waxing my vulva and butt hole and instead just trim my pubic hair and shave my bikini line. I’ve noticed that the hair around my butt hole is quite long, and very thin/fine. It’s very difficult to shave or trim that area, so I’ve decided, out of laziness and the pure fact that I don’t care, to just leave the hair be. I’m wondering, is it normal to have long butt hole hair? And lots of it? This hair also trails from my butt to my vulva, kind of on a side-cheek kind of deal. Is this also normal?
Thanks!
From C.
Dear C,
Yes this is normal! Almost everyone has hair in their ass crack and it’s a topic that often gets brought up in Bodysex workshops. On some women you can see the hair peeking out when their bum cheeks are closed and some only when they’re open. When women don’t have hair it’s usually because they wax or shave it. The problem is that many of our ideas of what normal looks like come from porn — which doesn’t portray normal at all. Women in porn shave their bodies, bleach their assholes and undergo labia plasty surgery to change how their vulvas look. Porn gives us the idea that bodies are hairless, blemish free and all “tucked” in. This is bullshit!
So yes hair trailing from your butt to vulva is perfectly normal and if you want to leave it be then do it! It’s your body and it’s beautiful as it is.
Love Natasha
These days, I’ve been reading entries in your blog and found it is a trove of questions, answers and common experiences and interests I’d never thought I’d find anywhere else!
I’m so pleased!
And about what C. comments, I rarely have waxed my vulva or butt, mainly because hair has never been a problem for me, but also because it took quite a time for me to have “noticeable” pubic hair after I entered puberty and I was so proud of it when I finally got visible pubes: it felt so womanly and sexy that I never wanted to get rid of it.
I was, and still am, pretty slim and fit, and it took a time for me to grow my breasts, so I valued every feature that would show that I was a grown woman.
A couple of times I experimented with waxing -once at the request from an ex-lover- and, despite the curiosity about my “new” looks, I preferred being natural and just keep trimming my bikini line but nothing else.
I also have hairs around my anus, which are blond and fine, and not too long although, as you say, they become visible if I bend over, squat or spread my butt cheeks.
I love how they look, and how they feel when I touch them, and that even led to a friend of mine (Paola, whom I mentioned in another comment) to stop waxing herself too, as the psychological and physical freedom of a seemingly such simple thing as this, is remarkable end enjoyable.
I love my body as it is, and I feel reassured about that when I read your site, although I wonder if having hair around my anus would be frowned upon on a Bodysex workshop, in which I suppose they would become visible at times.
Do you think that, in the event of having the chance to participate in one, I should wax them, or do I just leave them as they are?
Again, thanks Natasha for this space to talk with confidence, and for all what you do!
Love
Mafi
Hello again Mafi!
please if you come to Bodysex, don’t feel the need to change any thing about yourself! You are more than welcome to come as you are. I am so glad that my words are connecting with you.
much love,
Natasha