“I Saw Beauty”
This is the story of a little girl shared with me by her mother who attended my first Bodysex workshop. There her mother learned about and identified the parts of her sexual anatomy, began to feel comfortable in her own skin and expressed this newfound comfort with her daughter.
She expressed it by taking better care of her body, not covering up while changing, showing appreciation for parts of her self that she had previously disliked and by sitting down beside her daughter naked. With the little girl watching, her mother identified and named all the parts of her vulva and their different purposes. Her daughter —fascinated by this — looked at her own vulva and did the same alongside her mom. A year later this happened:
“Mom come here, I have to tell you something!” said the little girl from her bath. Her mother walked in to see her daughter smiling up at her.
“I was just looking at my vulva.”
“Oh yah….And what did you see?” asked her mother.
“Well my clitoris looks like a little hill, and my labia look like peas from the garden.”
Smiling her mother asked if she saw anything else.
“Yah” said the little girl, “I saw beauty.”
Wildly Orgasmic Self……. Unafraid To Take Up Space
I wish all women could really know and have the experience I just had in Saskatoon with Natasha and the eight other special women who are now my courageous and brave forever sisters. There is nothing like it. Nothing. I have attended many workshops of all kinds but they do not compare to the absolute rawness, vulnerableness and authenticity of Bodysex. Designed by women and only for women I am given total permission to express myself, and I mean all of me. Moreover I am held by others in full acceptance of my expression and I them. The reason for this, unlike all other learnings, is that there is a foundational inclusivity of our sexuality. Together, yet individually, as each other’s witnesses we look fully at our sex, we touch it, we talk about it, we sometimes cry and laugh about it and we experience the profound pleasure of it. For me this brings me ever more closer to my wholeness. My sexual self is often left out of many learning modalities as if it doesn’t exist. But not in the Bodysex circle, it is in fact the key that brings a new awareness and a new connection to ourselves like no other.
I know that visceral fear women have, because I have had it too, of breaking cultural taboos. After all, it has always been our burden to carry on tradition so that all does not fall apart. And yet, in my experience it is within the breaking apart, away and/or the breaking down that my true essence is unearthed and ultimately embraced for everything that it is. By that I mean when I brave the territory of going against the grain of what is culturally acceptable or the norm, I see and know that the world does not end, I don’t end, and if anything I build a new path or maybe find the path that was always there awaiting me. I can fearlessly walk this path acknowledging and declaring the real me. This process cannot at all happen without other women. They are my mirrors, my reflection back, my sisters in self discovery. I support them and they support me in my expression of pleasure, of love, of pain, of strength, of weakness, and of joy.
And who is the real me? I am many things but what showed up for me this time in the protected warmth of the circle of women is my wildly orgasmic self unafraid to take up space with my sounds of primal pleasure, with my big body, and with my heart that embraces the women around me. I am a woman who unabashedly shares the stories of my six decades of juicy fun sexcapades and who now, because of the strength I have found with my Bodysex sisters, makes conscious effort to let go of that which is not serving me and joyously make room for better things to come.
I feel inspired, grounded yet flying high, rejuvenated and looking forward to what Bodysex will bring to me because each time I participate I get taken to a deeper understanding of my purpose and a commitment to have my life be pleasurable as is my birthright.
A thousand thank-you’s, Natasha for giving us this experience with such grace, enthusiasm and sensitivity. I love you!
Orgasmic Women
This is dedicated to the women in my life who have taught me that being orgasmic is a kind of conscious awareness that extends far beyond our physical orgasms. Thanks for paving the way…….
I watch her, red stained hands, wearing only a bikini as she picks raspberry after raspberry and puts them in a bucket. Small but strong, she carries her body in a way that makes me pay attention. She is a mother – nearly 20 years older than me – and looking down at my youthful, yet covered up body, I know that she know’s something that I don’t.
It’s in the subtle sway of her hips, in the healthy food that she eats, the love she puts into her body, and that look of mischief in her eyes that tells me there is always something more going on. This is an orgasmic woman.
We huddle together in a wine bar drinking glass after glass and people watching. She is in her 80’s, and needs to sit close enough to hear me talk over the hum of the people around us. Servers come and go and she makes comments under her breath about who she would like to take home and *%&#. A little while later she sits holding a crying woman in her arms – who was a stranger only moments before.
It’s in her acceptance of herself. The swears, the irreverence, the dirty talk and at the same time her acceptance of others. It’s in the freedom to be exactly who she is and not apologize. This is an orgasmic woman.
I see her standing there looking like a jewel against a cement background. She’s in her sixties, scarf blowing in the wind, cheeks flushed, hair in complete disarray. From the look on her face I know that she has taken on the town today. And she has.
It’s in her wind blown hair, in her smile that knows things that other women don’t, and in her ability to completely lose herself in her orgasms. This is an orgasmic woman.
It’s early in the morning and I’m laying in bed feeling more awake than I’ve ever felt in my life. Taking off my blanket the cold air hits my warm body, instantly making all the tiny hairs stand on end. I shiver and the shiver reminds me of the shiver I feel when I’m touched. Skin on skin. Moving my hands closer to my body I can feel the heat from them on my skin, and I arch towards it. Closer my hands gets until they rest on the tiny hairs that are still standing erect from the cold. The pressure form my hand on the tips of the hairs sends more shivers into my body and instantly I am overcome with pleasure.
Swaying my hips, putting love into my body, accepting myself just as I am, I lose myself in my orgasms. I am an orgasmic woman.
New Spring Bodysex Workshop/Retreat Date!
“I wish all women could really know and have the experience I just had in Saskatoon with Natasha and the eight other special women who are now my courageous and brave forever sisters. There is nothing like it. Nothing.” ……R (Feb. Bodysex participant)
Bodysex is a transformative and undefinable experience for women, of all ages and sexual orientations, interested in the empowering freedom that comes from shedding the masks, roles and clothing that we hide behind everyday. The workshop is done in the nude, yet it is non sexual. It is about creating sisterhood, healing body shame and celebrating pleasure.
I am thrilled to announce my second Bodysex Retreat Weekend on May 14th-16th held at the sacred Ancient Spirals retreat centre near Saskatoon SK. Canada. “Thirty acres of trees and rolling hills, on the banks of the South Saskatchewan River, give life to an abundance of animals and plants. This life surrounds the retreat with beauty and serenity. It’s a perfect place to relax, let go and just be.” During non workshop hours participants will be free to walk trails, journal, read, share talents, spend time alone or visit with other participants.
The two day workshop will include:
- Sacred circle where, in first person, we share about our relationships with our bodies and our orgasms. This is the time to let go of any shame that has been holding us back from fully celebrating our pleasure. Through this, the roots of sisterhood will begin forming as we accept each other for who are. No more and no
less. - Group genital show and tell. This is a powerful ceremony where we display our vulva one at a time, identify all of the parts of our anatomy and recognize the beauty and diversity amongst us.
- Learn new methods to enhance our orgasms and our self loving practice. Understanding our sexual anatomy, how breath, movement, sound and our pc muscle work to enhance our pleasure on all levels.
- Self loving, side by side, in the circle during “erotic recess.” Sharing our own pleasure, without expectation, with other women is one of the most powerful experiences that you will ever have. This is about learning to be our own lover, healing body shame, overcoming sexual guilt and sharing in sisterhood. This is also an opportunity for me to help personally guide you, towards orgasm or increased pleasure if you have never orgasmed or are having difficulty and would like help.
- Group massage. This ancient practice is almost impossible to describe in words. It is a transcendent experience where we are able to give and receive loving, non sexual touch from the other women in the circle.
Retreat Details:
LOCATION: Ancient Spirals Retreat Centre Saskatoon SK. Canada. (transportation from Saskatoon to the retreat location will be provided for out of town participants at an extra cost of $25.00)
DATES: 1pm May 14th – 1pm May 16th (Participants are able to leave on the evening of May 15th or early morning on the 16th if necessary as the workshop will be completed, but it is nice to stay that last night together if at all possible)
COST: $550 CDN. Included in this fee is the full Bodysex workshop, mystic wand vibrator, all meals, shared accommodation for 2 nights.
$200 NRF deposit on registration.
Space is limited to 10 participants
Please advise me of any dietary restrictions and/or preferences
REGISTER: on my website natashasalaash.com or email natashawiig@hotmail.com for all enquiries.
Here are some testimonials from women who attended the February Bodysex Retreat:
“I arrived in Canada scared, nervous, self-conscious, and looking for a quick fix to reignite the sexual flame that seemed to have been lost somewhere over the past 10 years. What I found was so much more. I never imagined that a “sex workshop” could result in so much healing. After the workshop, I left Saskatoon feeling whole, seen, loved, and beautiful. The shame and regret I felt previously were replaced by a strong sense of hope and an understanding of the power that comes from shared feminine sexuality. ” …..L (Feb. Bodysex participant)
“I wasn’t expecting such an obvious change in myself after bodysex. I knew i had a lot of work ahead of me to train myself to feel libido again. But the day I got home from the workshop, i actually wanted to have sex !!! I love the “certified orgasmic” tshirt, it makes me feel on fire!!!!:) and i used my vibrator in front of my husband and it wasn’t scary and he loved it. We broke down that brick wall. I got my period the next day but I still was horny so we got creative and I did it myself a few times or he helped me in various ways. Now that my period is over we have had sex 4 days in a row!!!!!i have NEVER wanted to have sex this much. Lol!! And last night, *I* seduced *him* into having sex with me! Ha! Thank you Natasha and my circle sisters. You have changed my sex life completely.” …..J (Feb. Bodysex participant)
I Find Myself Still Basking In the Unconditional Love Of My Bodysex Sisters
Here is a beautiful testimonial from a woman who attended my February Bodysex Retreat/Workshop. She sent the message to my mentor’s Betty //dodsonandross.com in thanks for sharing their knowledge by training other women to be Bodysex facilitators.
My next Bodysex Workshop retreat will be May 14th/15th 2016 at Ancient Spirals Retreat Centre. This will be the only Bodysex workshop until next winter. Details will be updated on my site over the next couple of days. Pm me to book as space is limited!
Dear Betty and Carlin,
I cannot thank you enough for making the decision to share your talents and messages of self-love with a larger audience through your Bodysex certification courses. Last weekend, I traveled to Saskatoon, Canada to attend Natasha Salaash’s Bodysex workshop and my experience (one that you know well) can only be described as transformational.
I arrived in Canada scared, nervous, self-conscious, and looking for a quick fix to reignite the sexual flame that seemed to have been lost somewhere over the past 10 years. What I found was so much more. I never imagined that a “sex workshop” could result in so much healing. After the workshop, I left Saskatoon feeling whole, seen, loved, and beautiful. The shame and regret I felt previously were replaced by a strong sense of hope and an understanding of the power that comes from shared feminine sexuality.
Now, back home, I find myself still basking in the unconditional love of my Bodysex sisters. At the same time, my heart aches for all of the women who may never have the opportunity (or open mindedness) to experience the life changing magic of Bodysex. Despite this, I am buoyed by the knowledge that, through your work, this information is being shared. Betty, thank you for your continued commitment to sharing the beauty of masturbation with women worldwide. Thanks to you vulva shame is well on its way to extinction! Carlin, thank you for helping to bring Betty’s vision and voice to an even broader audience. The work you are doing to ensure that her message is carried on is critical. Finally, thank you both for mentoring Natasha. She led our workshop with such compassion, honesty, and grace and is an inspiration to many of the women in our group. Keep up the wonderful work!
Best,
L
Happy International Women’s Day!!
In celebration of the girls and women of the world today. I hope that you have a circle like this one where you feel seen, heard, accepted and loved just as you are. <3 <3
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This Bodysex Weekend I Journeyed Deeper Into My Inner Spiral
This past weekends Bodysex workshop was held at Ancient Spirals Retreat Centre, where images of spirals were represented throughout the building and surrounding land. Spirals come in many different shapes, colours, and textures and to me each curve represents the unknown, anticipation of what is to come, darkness around unseen bends, and light when something new is discovered. It has been said that a person needs to travel deep inside themselves in order to find the place where their sexuality lies. I believe that this weekend’s Bodysex retreat helped each of us women on our journey inwards, to further explore the curves and colours of our own spirals.
The first step of the spiral began when we took off our clothes, sat down in the circle and shared our stories. No words can convey how much I appreciate being able to share such intimate stories with women older and younger than me. We all hold different wisdom and yet as I listened to each women speak I recognized a part of my own self in all of them. It seems that we all just want to be seen for who we are and it is so comforting to know that I’m not alone in that. With this understanding I gained strength as we took the next step in our spirals towards the vulva show and tell.
For many women, the show and tell is the scariest part and as the facilitator I have the privilege and honour of guiding the women through it. Sitting with each one, close enough that my arm is over their leg, I see the same image as they do in the mirror between their feet. I can feel the fear and nervousness in their body as they open themselves – sometimes shaking and often apologetic about what I am seeing. I marvel at the unique beauty, colour and shape of each woman and together, looking in the mirror, we witness a visual awakening – much like a bud in bloom. Shame literally means “to cover”and just like ourselves, our vulva just wants to be seen……..They are all beautiful and one woman shared that it helped her heal a lifetime of genital shame. Watching her fall in love with her pussy was pure joy for me and, I hope for her that it will be a burst of light in her own journey inwards. As always we named our vulvas together and I couldn’t help but feel that the names signified in some way the unique journey that each woman is on.
Doing the Bodysex workshop as part of a full weekend retreat meant that we were able to continue travelling our spiral long after the workshop hours were completed. We took several winding steps along our individual paths while being physically nourished with delicious food. Conversation and laughter flowed as we shared stories of relationships, lust, pain, heartache, addictions, recovery, sexual abuse, and longing. Some spent time alone reading, journaling, walking, skiing, doing yoga or sitting in silence and I marvelled at the respect given for boundaries and space as each woman navigated the twists and turns of her own personal spiral.
Something I hadn’t anticipated was how the women would make the weekend their own by sharing talents or gifts that were unique to them. Tarot cards, building an alter, fire blessing, hair braiding, listening with presence, preparing food, and offerings of homemade creams and oils. It was like one big seamless slumber party with each gift helping and encouraging us to enter into new turns in our spirals. It reminded me how our sexuality encompasses and is enhanced by parts of ourself that have nothing at all – and yet and everything – to do with sex.
After the second day of the actual workshop was over and we began our last night together, one of the women suggested that we recreate the “erotic recess” by pleasuring ourselves in a circle around the fire. Hearing this and seeing the nods of agreement from other women, I knew that the weekend experience had undeniably impacted their lives in a permanent way. Here we were – about to break the deeply ingrained cultural taboos – by having our first masturbation circle outside of the workshop hours!
Taking yet another step deeper into our spirals, seven of us joined in and – dragging mattresses across the floor – formed a circle around the fire. Lulled by the sounds of one woman’s very loud hitachi vibrator, and shouts of “Dear God” and “Jesus Christ” we laughed until we cried, touched ourselves with new found love and orgasmed at the same time. It was a spontaneous and true celebration of pleasure and sisterhood.
This weekend I journeyed deeper into my inner spiral surrounded by a circle of sisters – some of whom I knew and some whom I had never met before. I had been nervous about being in shared accommodation all weekend thinking that I might need time alone to process. But being there I realized how nice it felt to have their presence with me as I travelled through the light and dark bends in my own spiral. I was grateful that they treated me like a peer and not like someone who has “arrived” at a destination. I’m on my own journey.
Full of gratitude and love I give thanks for the weekend, the trust in me, and for being allowed to witness the stunning beauty of:
Mary, Red wolf, Peach, Braided rose, Wishbone, Precious frisky, Turtle, Shelley, Pearl and Fox.
With love and gratitude,
Natasha
My next Bodysex Retreat will be in May. Details to come or pm me.
A Circle Of Women Is The Most Powerful Force Known To Humanity
“A circle of women may be the most powerful force known to humanity. If you have one, embrace it. If you need one, seek it. If you find one, for the love of all that is good and holy, dive in. Hold on. Love it up. Get naked. Let them see you. Let them hold you. Let your reluctant tears fall. Let yourself rise fierce and love gently. You will be changed. The very fabric of your being will be altered by this, if you allow it. Please, please allow.”
– unknown
I picked up my beautiful sister Rebekah from the airport last night, flying in all the way from sunny California. We met a year and a half ago in an online group for women, seeking certification in Bodysex, yet had never met in real life. In spite of this we hugged like we have known each other forever and then sat in my bedroom like teenagers drinking tea, eating pot popcorn, making jewellry and talking for hours.
We held nothing back – our fears, triumphs, heartaches and stories of intense pleasure – hanging on every detail. Once you have sat in a Bodysex circle, vulnerability becomes the norm in your relationships and for this I am so grateful. There is nothing that I could say that she wouldn’t accept, and knowing that feels like I’m being held in one humongous hug. And I am. It’s a sisterhood hug.
I watch her face and her body as she tells me her stories. Sometimes there are tears in her eyes, sometimes she belly laughs – alternating from being deeply profound to extremely irreverent in the same sentence. The whole time I am thinking that this is what an orgasmic woman looks like in her 60’s. I hope that this will be me as well.
Today as I get the final details in place for the workshop tomorrow, I will undoubtedly feel all sorts of feelings. Elation, inadequacy, fear, excitement, nervousness, and absolute gratefulness. I will think of each and every woman that I have sat in a circle with and all that we shared physically, emotionally and spiritually together. Tonight I will have an orgasm (or two) in celebration and thanks to them.
Tomorrow as I take my place in the circle – undoubtedly nervous and afraid – I will go back to my breath and through it allow my tears to fall, my strength to rise and the circle of sisterhood to carry me. <3
One Spot Has Opened Up In This Weekend’s Retreat!
There has been a last minute cancellation in my retreat this weekend (due to a medical issue) so I have 1 remaining space! If you are someone who doesn’t like a long time to think about things and want the experience of a lifetime, this is the perfect thing for you! There are women coming from California, Georgia, Ontario, Alberta and Saskatchewan with ages ranging from mid 20’s to mid 60’s! The collective wisdom and experiences in this circle is going to be amazing. On top of the unique workshop experience you will be fed yummy food, have time to walk, be alone, talk with other women and watch an Orgasmic women documentary. The weekend will be an empowering, moving, healing celebration of who we are and of our pleasure. PM me asap to book this spot <3
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